Over the last few years the gay marriage movement has transformed from "equality for all" to "bake me a cake." As it picks up steam, the movement looks more and more totalitarian, both at home and abroad. Witness the latest news from the Great White North: When Nicole White and Pam Renouf went looking for engagement rings a few months ago, the pair couldn't find anything they liked. The couple was eventually referred to Today's Jewelers in the Mount Pearl area because the store offers custom-made rings. White and Renouf visited the store and later gave specifications and a price range for potential rings. "They were great to work with. They seemed to have no issues. They knew the two of us were a same-sex couple," White said. "I referred some of my friends to them, just because I did get some good customer service and they had good prices." That was before one friend went in to purchase a ring for his girlfriend_and instead found a distressing sign. It reads: "The sanctity of marriage is under attack. Let's keep marriage between a man and a woman." Oh no. I bet you can see where this is going: The friend took a picture of the poster, which made its way back to White. "I had no idea about the sign up until that point," she said. "It was really upsetting. Really sad, because we already had money down on [the rings], and they're displaying how much they are against gays, and how they think marriage should be between a man and a woman." The couple went to the store the following day, and asked about the sign. "They just said that that's their beliefs, and they think they can put up whatever they want. I just said it was very disrespectful, it's very unprofessional and I wanted a refund," White said. "I have no issues with them believing in what they believe in. I think everyone's entitled to their own opinion. But I don't think they should put their personal beliefs inside their business." White and Renouf hope to get a refund when the man who sold them the rings returns to town next month_but it's not guaranteed. White said the rings were meant to be a symbol of love, but now the bands seem tainted. "I think every time I look at that ring, I'll probably think of what we just went through," White said. "How much they're against gays." "Disrespectful" and "unprofessional." "What we went through." What they went through? It's a testament to how bountiful and decadent Western civilization has become that people with such tender, delicate sensibilities are able to somehow make their way in the world. But what's interesting here isn't the majestic scale of hurt feelings in Canada. It's that we have a same-sex couple who asks for the services of a wedding vendor who has a different understanding as to what constitutes marriage. This vendor provides their services-and by all accounts provides them in a gracious manner. And that still isn't enough. Even possession of deviant thoughts is verboten. Actually, that's not quite fair. As Mrs. White says, it's fine for the Christian jewelers to think whatever they like. So long as they do so in private and don't say it out loud. In a funny way, maybe this case points to a temporary solution for the few remaining holdouts (of which there are 150 million or so) against the attempt to judicially redefine thousands of years of thought and law concerning marriage: During the bad old days-i.e. in 2008-it was common for many progressive businesses to display little rainbow flags in their shop windows so as to quietly advertize their support for the same-sex marriage movement. Perhaps businesses like Today's Jewelers and Sweet Cakes by Melissa and Memories Pizza ought to put little placards in their windows to let everyone know where they stand, too. Perhaps this might spare the hurt feelings of delicate flowers like Nicole White and Pam Renouf and reduce the number of incidences where business owners are asked/required to violate their consciences. Maybe a sign saying something like, "All proceeds from transactions related to same-sex wedding ceremonies will be donated to either the DeVos Center for Religion and Society or the Institute on Religion and Public Life." The idea of having to live such an aggressively politicized life is unappealing, to be sure. But the counter culture has to start somewhere. And unilateral disarmament never got anyone anywhere. |
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